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| BH Wishes - by Kobina Wright |
Perhaps
you’ve read several articles on how to make things happen for yourself in your
life. I’ve read too many to
count. But I keep reading
them. You know why? Because I believe that you never know
when the juiciest nugget will pop up and click something on for you and then
change your life forever. You just
never know.
The
following post is an ETR essay from Dr. Sandeep Sohal, titled, “Make Your
Dreams Come True.” He writes from
a different perspective here. He
doesn’t tell you to write down anything or look up anything. This essay challenges you to think –
then act.
Enjoy.
Make
Your Dreams Come True
By
Dr. Sandeep Sohal
When you believe that you control your destiny, that's when the
real thought experiment begins. That's when you are ready to ask yourself
the deep, penetrating questions that truly matter.
These might include:
How have you become who you
are today?
What is it that you
visualize yourself to be?
What do you want your
obituary to look like (as an endpoint that drives you to organize yourself in
the present)?
When you are ready to truly answer these questions, it shows a
degree of resilience that most people never achieve. And this allows you to
become invulnerable in the face of any circumstances.
I am an optimist. I believe that any individual in any walk of
life can become the best possible version of themselves.
My studies in anthropology have shown me that humans are not
only a socially driven species, but that we also thrive with delivering a
personal touch to others.
If you are a caring, successful mother, there are people out
there who need your opinion and advice. If you are an awesome cook, there are
people out there who crave your food. If you are an amazing driving instructor,
there are teenagers out there who need the confidence and trust that only you
can teach and inspire. If you are a daycare teacher, there are children out
there who desire your dedication and foresight. If you are simply a
compassionate person, there are countless individuals in nursing homes who need
your attention. And if you are someone with professional expertise, then you
are truly fortunate, as there are a myriad of people who value your
services.You would be doing a disservice to them and to yourself by not taking
control of your destiny and bringing your talents to the world.
Some of us are gifted with natural talents, but I think if one
builds on attitude, then there are only two things that matter: doing active
good and having the willingness to serve.
When I was a teenager, I did this naturally only because I wanted
to do it. I pushed wheelchairs, I comforted the dying, I played Bingo
with the elderly, I watched The Three Stooges with stroke victims who could not
speak, and I fed those who could not eat on their own.
It never boils down to merely what your talents are in the final
analysis. Skills can be taught, but a helping attitude - like the one you
exhibit - is difficult to instill in those who don't have it. If you don't have
the attitude that seeks and strives to be unyielding in doing active good and willingly
serving, then you don't have what it takes.
Finally, all things come together when you are passionate.
Everything we do as humans originates from a feeling. No matter
what anyone tells you, we are not derived from logic. Is it logical to love
someone? So the question determining your success really is, "How much of
a helping and giving person can you allow yourself to become?"
When you are searching and seeking, you will find what you are
looking for. You have to allow what you are and wish to become effervesce to
the surface. It literally should bubble over.
All things come together when you are passionate. Passion
clarifies and crystallizes your mission in life.
Passion allows you to digest and endure your experiences with
resilience, using them for your benefit, selecting out what you truly need to
galvanize the right attitude from within at all times. It becomes your
second nature. Nothing can hurt you. Nothing can take that understanding away
from you. In fact, every circumstance in the field of experience becomes your
tool in finding inspiration toward what makes you passionate.
You can call me quixotic. You can call me a renegade. That's
fine, but let me tell you just one thing...It's all about your resilience, your
attitude, and your passion. If you remember nothing at all, remember simply to
become passionate. Remember to do what you simply must. It's that
simple. Doing active good originates from your true passion.
And that is what will make
all the difference in the world for you.
















