|BH Wishes - by Kobina Wright|
Perhaps you’ve read several articles on how to make things happen for yourself in your life. I’ve read too many to count. But I keep reading them. You know why? Because I believe that you never know when the juiciest nugget will pop up and click something on for you and then change your life forever. You just never know.
The following post is an ETR essay from Dr. Sandeep Sohal, titled, “Make Your Dreams Come True.” He writes from a different perspective here. He doesn’t tell you to write down anything or look up anything. This essay challenges you to think – then act.
Make Your Dreams Come True
By Dr. Sandeep Sohal
When you believe that you control your destiny, that's when the real thought experiment begins. That's when you are ready to ask yourself the deep, penetrating questions that truly matter.
These might include:
How have you become who you are today?
What is it that you visualize yourself to be?
What do you want your obituary to look like (as an endpoint that drives you to organize yourself in the present)?
When you are ready to truly answer these questions, it shows a degree of resilience that most people never achieve. And this allows you to become invulnerable in the face of any circumstances.
I am an optimist. I believe that any individual in any walk of life can become the best possible version of themselves.
My studies in anthropology have shown me that humans are not only a socially driven species, but that we also thrive with delivering a personal touch to others.
If you are a caring, successful mother, there are people out there who need your opinion and advice. If you are an awesome cook, there are people out there who crave your food. If you are an amazing driving instructor, there are teenagers out there who need the confidence and trust that only you can teach and inspire. If you are a daycare teacher, there are children out there who desire your dedication and foresight. If you are simply a compassionate person, there are countless individuals in nursing homes who need your attention. And if you are someone with professional expertise, then you are truly fortunate, as there are a myriad of people who value your services.You would be doing a disservice to them and to yourself by not taking control of your destiny and bringing your talents to the world.
Some of us are gifted with natural talents, but I think if one builds on attitude, then there are only two things that matter: doing active good and having the willingness to serve.
When I was a teenager, I did this naturally only because I wanted to do it. I pushed wheelchairs, I comforted the dying, I played Bingo with the elderly, I watched The Three Stooges with stroke victims who could not speak, and I fed those who could not eat on their own.
It never boils down to merely what your talents are in the final analysis. Skills can be taught, but a helping attitude - like the one you exhibit - is difficult to instill in those who don't have it. If you don't have the attitude that seeks and strives to be unyielding in doing active good and willingly serving, then you don't have what it takes.
Finally, all things come together when you are passionate.
Everything we do as humans originates from a feeling. No matter what anyone tells you, we are not derived from logic. Is it logical to love someone? So the question determining your success really is, "How much of a helping and giving person can you allow yourself to become?"
When you are searching and seeking, you will find what you are looking for. You have to allow what you are and wish to become effervesce to the surface. It literally should bubble over.
All things come together when you are passionate. Passion clarifies and crystallizes your mission in life.
Passion allows you to digest and endure your experiences with resilience, using them for your benefit, selecting out what you truly need to galvanize the right attitude from within at all times. It becomes your second nature. Nothing can hurt you. Nothing can take that understanding away from you. In fact, every circumstance in the field of experience becomes your tool in finding inspiration toward what makes you passionate.
You can call me quixotic. You can call me a renegade. That's fine, but let me tell you just one thing...It's all about your resilience, your attitude, and your passion. If you remember nothing at all, remember simply to become passionate. Remember to do what you simply must. It's that simple. Doing active good originates from your true passion.
And that is what will make all the difference in the world for you.